What About Family? (1 Corinthians 5)

I've been taking a break from blogging recently, but felt I needed to post a video today.

Yesterday I taught from 1 Corinthians 5 and talked about the unpopular and difficult topic of church discipline. You can watch that sermon HERE if you missed it and you'd like to see it. I received a lot of questions in the last 24 hours, and most of them were questions about how to handle this in a family situation. So to provide a bit of clarity – I made this video. Watching it before your community group may be helpful because the topic will likely come up. 

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4 comments
  1. David,

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this difficult topic. Are there any directions in scripture for families in this type of situation?
    The only ones that come to mind are Matt 10 (particularly 34-38) and the lost son. The Matthew 10 passage seems to be about division in families where some believe and some do not.
    Matt 12:46-50 seems to indicate that our relationships with our brothers and sisters in the Church are to be more significant to us that our relationships with family members.

    Can you help me understand your answer and these things biblically?

  2. Matt –

    Great questions. Here are some brief thoughts.

    First, I’m not sure I have great answers. I think I’m sharing more opinions or applications of Scripture rather than commands. I’m going to give a lot of grace to those who view these things differently than I am.

    in both Matthew 10 and 12, I would want to be careful about not reading too much into those texts in answering this particular question. In Matthew 10, I hope the division in the family is not caused by the follower of Jesus, but if the one not a follower of Jesus that is putting distance and conflict between the family members. That entire passage is difficult because Jesus claims he didn’t come to bring peace (v. 34) – yet when he arrived, the angels announced “Peace on earth…” So I don’t think Matthew 10 is the definitive passage we want to base our family relationships on. However, it certainly tells us conflict will happen in relationships when Jesus is involved. But I don’t think we should make it a goal. 🙂

    As for Matthew 12 – I feel the same. We want to be careful about not reading too much into it. We also know Jesus reaffirmed the command to honor one’s parents (Matthew 15:4-6; Matthew 19:17-19; Mark 7:10-13). It feels like to me – he was making a positive point to those he was teaching, not a negative point about his family.

    If we take Matthew 12 too literally – then if I’m preaching and Sue gets in a car accident while I’m speaking and her life is in danger, and someone comes and interrupts me to tell me. Should I say, “This is more important? I will get to her after the second service?” I don’t think anyone would look at that as a proper application of Matthew 12. But maybe someone would. I don’t know. I tend to think Matthew 12 applies in a positive way of those who love God being “family” than negative against earthly family.

    I would say our families cannot hold us back from doing the right thing or from loving God. But if it doesn’t keep us from doing those things, then family should be honored, loved, embraced, and cherished. In our culture, there certainly is an idol made of family, often. I don’t know…

    Random thoughts… not sure of answers… but these are great questions! What do you think?

  3. Matt – 

    Great questions. Here are some brief thoughts.

    First, Im not sure I have great answers. I think Im sharing more opinions or applications of Scripture rather than commands. Im going to give a lot of grace to those who view these things differently than I am. 

    in both Matthew 10 and 12, I would want to be careful about not reading too much into those texts in answering this particular question. In Matthew 10, I hope the division in the family is not caused by the follower of Jesus, but if the one not a follower of Jesus that is putting distance and conflict between the family members. That entire passage is difficult because Jesus claims he didnt come to bring peace (v. 34) – yet when he arrived, the angels announced Peace on earth… So I dont think Matthew 10 is the definitive passage we want to base our family relationships on. However, it certainly tells us conflict will happen in relationships when Jesus is involved. But I dont think we should make it a goal. 🙂

    As for Matthew 12 – I feel the same. We want to be careful about not reading too much into it. We also know Jesus reaffirmed the command to honor ones parents (Matthew 15:4-6; Matthew 19:17-19; Mark 7:10-13). It feels like to me – he was making a positive point to those he was teaching, not a negative point about his family.

    If we take Matthew 12 too literally – then if Im preaching and Sue gets in a car accident while Im speaking and her life is in danger, and someone comes and interrupts me to tell me. Should I say, This is more important? I will get to her after the second service? I dont think anyone would look at that as a proper application of Matthew 12. But maybe someone would. I dont know.  I tend to think Matthew 12 applies in a positive way of those who love God being family than negative against earthly family.  

    I would say our families cannot hold us back from doing the right thing or from loving God. But if it doesnt keep us from doing those things, then family should be honored, loved, embraced, and cherished. In our culture, there certainly is an idol made of family, often. I dont know… 

    Random thoughts… not sure of answers… but these are great questions! What do you think?

    David

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