Advantages to Being Judged By Others

Criticism

Yesterday, I mentioned that pastors and churches will either be ignored or judged. That is a reality of life. It will be one or the other. You can read that post HERE.  If you aren't growing, you are most likely to be ignored. If you are growing, you will more likely be judged. That's just a reality if life and isn't worth having a pity-party over it.

But there are some advantages to being judged and criticized by others. Here are some I think of:

  • It is corrective. I would be a fool to assume that every criticism and judgment from those outside of our church is inaccurate and wrong. If I can drop my defensiveness and pride, I could learn a lot.
  • It helps me judge my motivation (do I do what I do for the approval of others?).
  • It helps me think through why we do what we do.
  • It keeps me from thinking too highly of myself (it is good for my humility).
  • It reminds me that even if what they say is harsh and inaccurate – there are things they don't know about me that deserve judgment. 
  • It helps me grow in dependence on God. 
  • It actually helps me be less defensive (I can't defend myself to every critic).
  • It helps me be more gracious to other pastors and churches when I hear criticism and judgments.

Remember: to avoid criticism – do nothing of value and say nothing substantive to anyone. 

I'm sure there are other advantages to be judged and criticized. What advantages to judgment and criticism come to your mind?

5 comments
  1. Once (maybe “if”?) I stop having my pity party and get over the fact that the criticism was not “perfectly expressed” I ask God if there is even a shred of truth about what the person is criticizing me about. Usually there is something that I can take from it and learn from. I do not want to leave a gift like that unopened even if it is not wrapped the way I think that it should be. I also like getting back to the person that judged me and let them know what God showed me as a result of what they brought to my attention.

  2. David, I am sure that much of this ties in with the benefits that you have already listed, but I believe that criticism has helped me to become a better leader. I’ve learned to prepare well and answer as many questions as I can before I ever lead through change because of criticism. Thanks for sharing.

  3. It’s an uncomfortable opportunity to evaluate motivation, mission, and/or methods. Plus, sometimes we get to see how much our wife and kids love us when they strap on the boxing gloves in our defense:-) Thanks for honestly sharing your journey as a leader of a growing church.

  4. Along those lines and your thought:”to avoid criticism – do nothing of value and say nothing substantive to anyone.”

    I recently heard this quote from an America’s Got Talent contestant who had really gone out on a limb with his act . . . it’s not often that I reach for a piece of paper to jot down a note while watching tv . . . this one sticks:

    “Play it safe and no one will ever know who are”

    I wish I could come up with a quote from Jesus or perhaps Paul that lines up with that thought . . . there’s gotta be one.

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